What Is Not Love (youtube.com)
External-love is what I’m going to give, not what I’m going to get. (This line is bit vague)
I good line that i need to keep in check is:
“People make serious mistake in thinking, that you give to those who you love, and the answer is you love to those whom you give” His point is, if I give something to you, I have invested myself in you, since self-love is given everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become in you, there is part of me in you that I love.
One thing that i read long back was:
If you want someone to be open to you, go ask for some favour, once people have done favor they are more open to talk to you.
Probably goes by the same theory above..